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What makes a Gentleman?
« on: April 23, 2014, 07:48:26 PM »
This article is lifted from Country Life.  When I was working in the UK many years ago traveling on British Rail trains I can remember the signs in the toilets which said "Gentlemen raise the seats".  In particular I like the Jilly Cooper definition.  Anyway enjoy the article and happy St. George's Day to you all:-




It has long been said that manners maketh man, but it appears holding doors open, saying please and thank you, and dressing appropriately for dinner is no longer enough to make a true gentleman.
But help is at hand as a new list of rules for the 21st century gentleman is published, with advice on coloured trousers, pre-tied bow ties and an outright ban on tweeting.
Country Life magazine, founded in 1897, has produced a list of modern rules for men, as it launches a new Gentleman of the Year Award.
The magazine, which is known for its weekly ‘Girls in Pearls’ page, is intending to “dust off” the rule book about what makes a gentleman and redefine it for the modern day.
The award, which will see public figures nominated by their fans, is aimed at celebrating the notion of good manners, taste and decency, with gentlemanliness described.


New rules, now published in the magazine, outline the ideal attributes of men, including guidance on hair styling, social media and a non-negotiable ban on pre-tied bow ties.
While some, such as being punctual, honest and dress to suit each occasion, may not have changed in the last century, others focus on more modern concerns.
A true gentleman of the 21st century would never buy fuschia-coloured trousers, plant gladioli or – heaven forbid – own a cat, according to Country Life.
His shopping list will also be placed under scrutiny, with drinking Malibu, the coconut-flavoured rum, and writing with a Biro frowned upon.
The use of Facebook is permitted, in order to keep in touch with one’s “many” god-children, but the gentleman of 2014 would “definitely” not use Twitter.
Nor does he wear Lycra, finish his food before his dining companions or walk out of the theatre before the final curtain falls.
A real gentleman, on the other hand, will make companions feel at ease, curtail his drinking before he becomes disorderly and, intriguingly, only make love “on his elbows”.
The list, entitled “Country Life’s Gentlemanly Commandments”, was developed after consulting a number of public figures, with Jeremy Paxman arguing that “a gentleman doesn’t dispense unsolicited advice”, and Joan Collins insisting he would “never wear brown shoes at night”.
“A gentleman is someone who drives you home after he’s been to bed with you,” Jilly Cooper, the romantic novelist said, while actor Richard E. Grant added: “Courtesy costs nothing – rudeness is exorbitant and never forgotten.”
The magazine is now open to submissions from readers, asking for nominations for the “British public figure” most deserving of the title of “gentleman”.
Mark Hedges, Country Life editor, told the Telegraph it was time to update the idea of a gentleman from the stereotype of the 1940s.
“Being a gentleman is Britain’s greatest export to the world,” he said. “Forget an OBE, CBE or anything else; to be told you are a gentleman is the highest compliment you can get.
“Deep down, we all know that but we don’t make a fuss, because gentlemen never make a fuss. So it is down to us, a magazine.”
Saying the rules were intended as a light-hearted look at the modern man, he added: “There is a serious side to it. Gentlemanly behaviour is something that sets one human apart from another.
“It’s a way of life. It’s about making people feel better when they’re in your company, being generous of spirit and heart.
“It’s nothing to do with money or class or your profession; it’s instinctive.”
Saying there are as “many gentlemen now as there have ever been”, he added the notion of gentlemanliness would be something to aspire to “long after” the hero-worshipping of “celebrities and the X Factor contestants” was at an end.
The winner will be announced in the June edition of the magazine. They will not, however, take home a physical prize.
“Being a gentleman doesn’t mean you get prizes handed to you,” said Hedges. “It’s far more important than that.”


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Offline Roger

Re: What makes a Gentleman?
« Reply #1 on: April 23, 2014, 08:55:33 PM »
Well perhaps Thaiga should answer this one ?
His close proximity to the Queen is still unexplained.
Does anyone on KF qualify as a Gent, (apart from Saf), by this 'Country Life' definition ?
ATB
 

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Re: What makes a Gentleman?
« Reply #2 on: April 24, 2014, 06:58:43 AM »
I have never tried making love on my elbows. How does one suspend your entire body weight on your elbows?
 

Offline dawn

Re: What makes a Gentleman?
« Reply #3 on: April 24, 2014, 01:53:02 PM »
your gut holds you up ;)
the earliest light of day
 

Offline thaiga

Re: What makes a Gentleman?
« Reply #4 on: April 24, 2014, 04:16:44 PM »
Well perhaps Thaiga should answer this one ?
His close proximity to the Queen is still unexplained.
Does anyone on KF qualify as a Gent, (apart from Saf), by this 'Country Life' definition ?
ATB
sorry ole boy, top secret an all that. ≧◔◡◔≦
As for gentleman you should always get out of the bath to relieve yourself.
Anyone who goes to a psychiatrist should have his head examined.
 

Online jivvy

Re: What makes a Gentleman?
« Reply #5 on: April 24, 2014, 07:18:52 PM »

As for gentleman you should always get out of the bath to relieve yourself. :lol :lol :lol

can shower instead , saves getting out of the bath
 

Offline thaiga

Re: What makes a Gentleman?
« Reply #6 on: April 25, 2014, 11:59:21 AM »
It's almost impossible to have a shower without wanting to go.

But with a bath you can count the the bubbles after flatulence. :lol
Anyone who goes to a psychiatrist should have his head examined.
 

Offline thaiga

Re: What makes a Gentleman?
« Reply #7 on: April 26, 2014, 03:27:57 PM »
You have to learn to hold it in jivvy - but not like this guy :)

Anyone who goes to a psychiatrist should have his head examined.
 

Online jivvy

Re: What makes a Gentleman?
« Reply #8 on: April 26, 2014, 06:42:35 PM »
 :lol :lol
don't have that problem,
I am slim anyway
 

 



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