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Offline thaiga

Up to You
« on: July 22, 2017, 04:12:03 PM »
An article from The Pattaya Sleuth with the heading - Up to You - It is surprising how many times that we say things and they are interpreted differently to how we actually mean them.

Up to You

It is probably one of the phrases that we hear the most in Thailand and in reality it has so many means depending on the situation that it is used in. I think most of us often associate it with our wives or girlfriends saying when they are less than impressed with something that we have either said or done and basically means “I don’t want you to do that!” However, I think that we are often guilty of reading too much into what is being said and perhaps what she does actually mean is “up to you, I have no feelings either way, you decide”.

I took notice last week when I was asked by my girlfriend what I wanted to eat. I was busy doing something at the time and I can say hand on heart that I had no preference about what food we were going to have so long as I got something. Her response however was “No need to be like that, I only asked”, and that got me thinking about how many of us would often respond in the same way.

It is surprising how many times that we say things and they are interpreted differently to how we actually mean them. This probably does have quite a lot to do with the different cultures but equally I just think that it is human nature and sometimes we are just a little bit more sensitive than we are at other times. We often hear Thais acknowledge what we are saying with a “huhhh” that appears to have no meaning other than an acknowledgement of that we have said something.

This is phrase that has again caused issues for me in the past when I have complained that the response was rude or ignorant. This resulted in getting no acknowledgement at all that received similar complaints from me to which I perhaps quite rightly got “I can’t win!” Being English I think we have our very own interpretation of manners and living abroad you quickly realise that not every culture has the same beliefs and what we view as being rude or lacking manners is perfectly acceptable in another country and after all we aren’t in England now and I am certainly in the minority.

I think what I trying to say it would probably be better if we were all to be a little bit more tolerant and realised that our way isn’t always perfect and that we shouldn’t read into something that isn’t there.

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Offline Baby Farts

Re: Up to You
« Reply #1 on: July 23, 2017, 03:16:12 PM »
I think it's part of the passive attitude, kind of.....keep the harmony sort of thing. Go with the flow so to speak. The phrase comes up a lot when I ask my wife what she wants for dinner, although she will ask me to cook something special when she's in the mood.
 
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Offline thaiga

Re: Up to You
« Reply #2 on: July 23, 2017, 06:08:35 PM »
The tone that it is said in would tell the person what it meant  :cussing
 or should i say which way to take it :-[

PS: I like that withdraw  thanks - that is polite sex talk  :lol :lol :lol
Anyone who goes to a psychiatrist should have his head examined.
 

Offline nan

Re: Up to You
« Reply #3 on: July 23, 2017, 07:09:53 PM »
it's up to you means the choice is yours
whilst it's down to you means  :evilgrin
ignorance does not help your post one bit but it probably says an awful lot about you.
 

 



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