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Offline thaiga

The tourist
« on: October 25, 2018, 02:56:39 PM »
The tourist

The bar girl allows a man to believe he is so special even as much an undiscovered celebrity, that's me, he thinks as he downs his 5th pint, the dream has started, the drink is now in full charge of the guy, i found love yippee, this is great. so the old guy weighs on his wad, like he's loaded as he hops into bed with a girl half his age, he now thinks he's a filmstar. bit like 5 minutes of fame. they love me if i pay them more he thinks. most trundle off home after their "hows your father" holiday comes to an end.

BUT ... a small minority of them guys that holiday here, fall in love, there back on the plane as soon as you know it, coming back for more. oh no. some even think they will rescue this girl from the sordid life working at the bar, unbeknowing to them she actualy likes it, it all she knows, the poor guy might even end up needing someone to rescue him, if things go wrong, let alone the girl. is that when they get the urge to jump off the nearest high building.

She said she loves me, as she whispers sweet nothings and what he wants to hear in his ear, what with that and the whiff of perfume, he's gone all weak at the knees.

The clever tourists he the one on the plane, goes home with his memories and his money, so he can come back another day.

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Offline thaiga

Re: The tourist
« Reply #1 on: October 26, 2018, 02:03:00 PM »
so the tourist meets a bargirl, although he is getting on a bit, overweight, not partically good looking, he never gets much attention from the girls back home. all of a sudden he has a young girl hanging on his arm calling him "hansom man" he now thinks they got me all wrong back home, i'm a good catch, which he might be if he has plenty of money, a good catch for her. after a few days of sight seeing, shopping, buying his new love loads of presents, he might even say give up working at the bar, go home and take care of your kids, eat what, she'll say, his reply, i will send you money to help you each month and you wait for me to come back. who know's could have a husband at home, maybe a boyfriend, you can bet that if she has. he will be spending the money you send.

funniest thing i ever did see was a bar girl receiving a call on her mobile phone, from her western boyfriend back home, checking up on her. the phone rang, down went the music at the bar, she grabbed this rubber chicken from behind the bar, put it under her arm, where are you, he would say, i am at home in isaan darling, would be the reply, then she would give the rubber chicken a squeeze which let out a squealing noise that sounded just like the real thing, cock a doodle doo. yes i can hear the chickens.

cock a doodle doo or any cock ado       
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Offline thaiga

Re: The tourist
« Reply #2 on: October 27, 2018, 12:47:34 AM »
   just a guy with his two friends



this photo made some attention on the social media, i have no idea why, just a guy with his two friends drawing some money from an atm. what was all the fuss about. most tourists visiting Thailand come away with nothing but amazing memories, great tans, and a whole lot of stories, are they just stories, made up ones. they go like this, I got drunk and I slept with hookers and it was great, yea ok. no mention that they slept with you only for money, err yes. some of these guys chances of getting laid at home are second to none, that could be why all the excitement, lets tell the world. so you paid for sex, making you a sex tourists. tut tut

the problem with some of these guys is they class all the women as the same, the dumb farang can't tell the difference, they assume things. when a hooker takes them home to meet the family that is for a purpose, they think they are special, thinking no other farang has been there before. ha! ha! you are the lucky one.

here's one guy who wasn't invited back home an article from stickmanbangkok.com

So in the summer of this year I booked a 3-week trip. I wanted to travel and see as much of it as I could. I had a few Thai female friends a spoke to on Facebook, a couple were honest and were bar girls and asked me to barfine them, saying they would travel with me. I thought no, that’s not what I wanted. I want to travel and experience single life.

The day before I travel one of the girls who is 27 and has a 2-year old son from a former farang boyfriend says she wants to meet me. We had some chemistry and she assured me she never worked bar and lives with her parents in North Thailand. She did tell me that she has a place in Pattaya that she stays a few months a year with her son.

So the day I land we meet later in the day and spend one week together, in Bangkok and then Phuket. I felt touched that she showed me so much, from temples and places to eat and drink.

After one week she told me she had a family emergency and had to fly back north. I gave her 10, 000 baht and paid for the flight. She said she would come back soon, but then something strange happened. Rather than fly to her city in the north she told me she would fly to Bangkok, then taxi to Phuket to pick some paperwork up for her son, then fly same day back north.

For one week I waited, visited various places and had ok time but was lucky if I got 3 SMS messages from her a day. I had a suspicion that she had gone back to Pattaya to meet some guy from what I read on her Facebook wall, but I had no proof.

Anyway, the last 3 days of my holiday we reunited and had an ok time. I met her son and her stepfather but she did not take me home to her parents’ home. She told me she had split from her ex boyfriend 3 months earlier and did not want people to gossip.

I fly home and for the last 6 months we have chatted and SMSed every day. She says she is my girlfriend but I know deep down I am been played. I have over a period of 6 months sent her 70, 000 baht. She says she has to pay 20,000 a month for her car. Don't ask me what model but I have been in it and it is nice. But I think if you do not have lots of money why would you commit to that amount per month? She tells me her only Income is from her parents who have a small business. She also she spent 3 months in Pattaya with her son so I keep thinking why all that time in Pattaya, and then I try to think surely she is not working as her son is there! I see them on Skype every couple of days, and she has Facebook and maybe 600 guys on it. She refuses to accept me as her boyfriend and when I ask why she says she does not want the world to know her business. Also she wants to come to the UK for one month in March 2013 and insists she needs 100,000 baht in her bank before they will give her tourist visa. She also she spends a lot of time travelling in Thailand, Hua Hin, Pattaya, Samui etc. sometimes for one week or two. I think I know the answers but would love some advice. I guess I want it all to be true but have big doubts. When I do not give her money she gets angry and her language is shocking. Her English is very good. She insists she has made mistakes in the past and is not perfect. But I worry I am a sponsor, one of maybe 4 or 5 and not really her boyfriend who she says she loves.

I never went to Pattaya and she kept me well away and also insists when I go back next year we can go anywhere but there. I had an amazing time and it was not my intention to meet a Thai girl. It is an amazing country with people who are friendly and I would love to come back more.

Anyway that's my story. I would appreciate any feedback. I can take criticism. I am not looking for replies like you idiot, another poor farang. I want some good honest feedback please guys…
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Offline thaiga

Re: The tourist
« Reply #3 on: October 27, 2018, 11:45:06 AM »
Anyway that's my story. I would appreciate any feedback. I can take criticism. I am not looking for replies like you idiot, another poor farang. I want some good honest feedback please guys…
so what are stickmans thoughts on the last post

This woman is showing all the classic symptoms of a bargirl plying her trade online (and she is probably working in the bar too). It is very, very obvious what she is up to and unfortunately you appear to have been a remarkably willing victim. There are so many red flags with this lady that I really don't know where to start, so let's not bother and just go straight to the advice. RUN!!! Absolutely no good can come from any further contact with this woman! Really, don't even think about trying to reason with her or ask her to explain what she is up to. Doing so will just create more frustration, maybe anger. In situations like this there is only one thing to do and just in case you missed it the first time, RUN!!!
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Offline Johnnie F.

Re: The tourist
« Reply #4 on: October 27, 2018, 12:03:36 PM »
Why is it only Thai ladies we're talking about here. If you got some dough, go for a "vacation" on one of these cruise liners full of Western ladies. The ladies you meet there are hardly any different, just appear to be better off at the beginning. But their tools and needs are the same, just a higher class of the game!
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Re: The tourist
« Reply #5 on: October 27, 2018, 12:50:17 PM »
Why is it only Thai ladies we're talking about here. If you got some dough, go for a "vacation" on one of these cruise liners full of Western ladies. The ladies you meet there are hardly any different, just appear to be better off at the beginning. But their tools and needs are the same, just a higher class of the game!
Why is it only Thai ladies we're talking about here.  as it's more important as info to the guys that are here, but carry on we are hear to listen ;)

The ladies you meet there are hardly any different  thats not what we are led to believe by the info received as late

needs are the same  disagree a thai ladys needs in what we read are money

the higher class i hear, do like a bit a ruff for their needs, but normaly like to date their financial equals. wouldn't do to be seen with a lower class in tow. but the guys that come here would they be able to handle a high class of relationship, with beer slopping down there, bad guys go to pattaya t-shirt,  :lol

interesting read here marketwatch.com  

so what do people find important in a partner, Women felt it was more important that their partner made at least as much money as they did (46% versus 24% of men) and had a successful career (61% versus 33% of men), while men favored a slender body (80% versus 58% of women). survey from Chapman University.

“Female bower birds select males with the nicest nest, and in many insects, the female selects a male who offers her a nice gift of prey he has captured,”

women pay attention to things that enhance their survival and that of their family. Valuing money and looks over personality may seem a tad superficial,  most women of a certain age want security, but we also want someone who doesn’t look, act and dress like a troll. A woman must uphold her standards. 

Life is too short to settle for someone who doesn’t treat you well.
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Re: The tourist
« Reply #6 on: October 27, 2018, 01:45:10 PM »
Many guys could not afford longer adventurous travels in their working lives. Now they crowd Pattaya to make up for what they thought they missed.
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Offline Johnnie F.

Re: The tourist
« Reply #7 on: October 27, 2018, 01:52:24 PM »
If you've got chance to lay your hand on a copy of "The Round" (Der Reigen) by Arthur Schnitzler, do read it, learn about the dialogues of seduction in different classes.
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Offline Johnnie F.

Re: The tourist
« Reply #8 on: October 27, 2018, 02:09:57 PM »
women pay attention to things that enhance their survival and that of their family. Valuing money and looks over personality may seem a tad superficial,  most women of a certain age want security, but we also want someone who doesn’t look, act and dress like a troll. A woman must uphold her standards. 

Life is too short to settle for someone who doesn’t treat you well.

Personality alone is not sufficient! One very important factor often overlooked is the intelligence of your prospective partner. But finding out about that is a huge problem. Good grades on a school or university certificate don't mean much! Analysis and problem-solving you gotta trust in, when you give yourself into the hands of a partner.  Intelligence can be developed during an education, but not be acquired in the first place, it must be given! How can you find out, that your prospective partner has what is needed, and not only repeats phrases and reproduces behaviour memorized before?
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Offline thaiga

Re: The tourist
« Reply #9 on: October 27, 2018, 02:31:26 PM »
maybe studying someones body language might help with finding the right relationship - the swaying at the bar managing to still hold the glass :drink the lips moving but cannot be understood - then the staggering back to the hotel room - the real body language will be seen looking down at what now refuses to stand up  :evilgrin lol

on a serious note interesting vid

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Re: The tourist - so thats what he come 12,000 miles for
« Reply #10 on: October 28, 2018, 11:56:04 AM »
through the eyes of a tourist

it's been a long flight, didn't get much sleep on the plane, cant get the facination of thailand out my head, the bars, the girls, those flourest lights, music playing, warm climate, got a few bob, going to have a great  time. as the plane lowers to land all are staring out the windows at the facinating lights of thailand, not landed yet but people already got their hands on the luggage in the above compartments.

what is the big rush, hope they not the same in bed when they find their partner, she wont like that, or maybe she will, glad when the old farts asleep. we have now landed and everybody is running to the immigration, why, you still have to wait for your luggage to be unloaded. as you leave through the airport doors walking for the taxi, the heat hits you, just like you opened the oven door.

what a shame such a nice country and you have to ask the price of the taxi fare as you think your gonna get topped up, no meter on, so your holiday aint realy started yet and your already weary of being conned, good you know the score, you can bearly see where you are going as the shrine in the taxi front window is blocking your view. ok now at your hotel, bung the bags in the room, no good trying to sleep theres a whole world waiting for you and your money out there, full a fun and good thoughts in yer head. straight in the bar, lilly white legs n all in your best M & S shorts, dead giveaway, newbie on the block, quick he's just landed, as your surrounded by more than enough girls, wer yu com form, ooh yu hansum man, yes thats me ladies. he feels he is getting more hansum every minute.

of course he wants to believe what he is told, who is to be pitied more, the dumb tourist or the money grabbing bar girl, so he settles down into a seat with a girl clutching his sweaty hand, shaking a bit as he looks at her, as he can imagine himself banging away with her in his room, what a catch he is thinking. but he is no fool, he wants to know what she would actualy do for him, if he did decide to pay the bar bill. as she don't quite understand him in his best wednesbury accent, he want a bj, so he points at his mouth saying the words yummy, me understand she said, yes, we go now, so he pays on and they leave the bar hand in hand.

she leads the way, no this way to hotel he says, yummy yummy first she said, now he is thinking she must have a room close by for some fun. so he goes along with her only to find out she has dragged him into one of the most expensive restaurants around, she points at the menu and utters the words, yummy yummy, oh no he thinks yummy as in food, meaning to eat. as he looks at the menu prices, he starts to feel a bit sick, he has already paid, drinks in the bar, bar bill, now top prices here.

as they order he is carefuly adding up the bill in his head, a small fortune he thinks. wow what a surprise she see's three friends she knows and beckons them over to join them, so they sat down and started ordering food saying thank you for buying them a meal. he is now sweating full flow as they introduce each other, my friend speak nid noy english she said, great he thought lets get the price of the company dealt with and he wants to know does she blow. so they soon understood him and all started giggling, pointing at his ladys area down below, she have big one, you like, it was just at that moment he realised she was a ladyboy. as he sat and watched the four of them order and tuck into one of the restaurants top priced food.

so thats what he come 12,000 miles for
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Offline thaiga

Re: The tourist
« Reply #11 on: October 29, 2018, 11:12:39 AM »
whats the big attraction so many tourists come here



is it rats, worms, bugs and insects, skinned and unskinned bloody frogs they have come for or maybe a ride that might be the scariest adventure of their life, a ride on the back of a motorbike on a busy road. then theres crossing the road, remember even if you have a green light, it doesn’t mean you have the right to cross the street, safest way follow a local. so what have they come for. whoops nearly forgot the lovely thai ladies.


Bangkok Bar Girls and Farang Tourists

Old, fat, dumb farang tourists and scheming, thieving bar girls – who is to be pitied most?

I met Derek at the Bangkok train station and it emerged we’d be catching the same train up north. He was getting off before me, though, in a little out of the way place where he hoped to find his ex-wife still practicing hair cutting on the station platform.

“I left her 2 weeks after getting married,” he admitted, “I’m not sure whether she’ll want to see me or not.”

Derek had met his wife when she was dirt poor. But as she was so beautiful he helped her get a life, paying for her to train as a hair dresser and then eventually marrying her on her request so that her family would receive the dowry money from the groom. Him. But then he’d freaked out with the claustrophobia of the whole thing and had run back to his girlfriend in Belgium.

“She was also Thai. I found her when I was writing letters to my fiancé and needed a translator. Then as she read the letters, she was so moved by my words that she fell in love with me. Now I’ve got a kid with her and we run a restaurant in Belgium.”

Derek was taking a months break from the restaurant business and so was his wife, visiting family in Bangkok but she didn’t know he was there. She might have tried to stop him hooking up with his ex-wife in the country, after all.

“If it doesn’t work out with my ex-wife I’ll go and find my girlfriend in Bangkok,” Derek admitted, “It all depends on how it goes today. I mean, even when I used to go and see her, she always had boyfriends – she was that beautiful – but she’d tell them to get lost while I was in town.”

Derek was about 50, well-educated and good company. Eventually we came down to the crux of the matter:

“To be honest, I don’t really like women. I mean, I like the way they look but not the inside. For me women are snakes. They’re treacherous. There are exceptions, of course but basically they just want to reproduce and then pull every trick in the book to help their child. Which is good for the child but not for us.”

I only ever meet people like Derek in Thailand. They come here because the women are often beautiful, demure and a lot more fun than in the self-conscious West. If you have money then you’re desirable as a man here and sustains a practical element to the relationship that makes life fairly uncomplicated.

It’s easy to slap down moral templates on other cultures and it’s often quite erroneous. Much of the sex for sale scene here is more like compensated dating, though often it’s an out and out scam with the Thai bar girls taking the dumb farangs for all they’re worth. For sure, you find the archetypal fat, old and ugly Germans, English and Americans waddling around with a slight, pretty young Thai woman and you can’t imagine that she’d be doing so except by absolute necessity. The sex tourist are dumb enough to think that the fact she’s smiling means she’s happy with the situation.

I spent quite a few days just watching farang tourists walking around with their Thai girls. The Thai girls tend to grab hold of their prey aggressively, leading him around by the hand and pouting at every opportunity. In Thailand, the women often seem quite masculine and the men rather highly-strung and effeminate, putting an end to offhand generalisations about the nature of the sexes.

The bar girl (for he almost certainly met her at a bar where she called out ‘hey handsome, buy me a beer?’) wears too much make up and has a hungry, bitter look in the eye. The kind of broiling inner resentment that accounts for all the Thai women in prison for castrating their lovers.

The tourists are the ones to watch though. These guys tend to have the worst dress sense imaginable, wandering around in tight waistcoats with long shirt sleeves and baseball caps. They look like they’ve been lacking a woman’s touch for too many years and have found a temporary solution.

Yet at often twice the height, twice the weight of the girls they’re going with, and quite unaware of the Machiavellian, scheming nature of the predator in the short skirt next to them, it’s hard to know who to pity more.

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