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Thai man no good?
« on: October 10, 2011, 11:51:30 AM »
If I had a baht for every time I heard this phrase, I'd be the wealthiest person in all of Thailand.

I'm sure most of you have heard a Thai woman use this phrase from time to time.  It's sort of like their way of letting you know that they want a farang, even though they may still have a Thai boyfriend or even husband on the back burner.

I've never heard a Thai man say, "Thai woman no good," but ask a Thai man and he will tell you the women are just as promiscuous as the men, and in some cases even more so.  The difference is Thai men don't voice their opinions. Instead, they go on doing whatever they like to do, whether it be going to massage parlors, karaoke, etc, as if nothing unusual is going on.  I'm sure we've all heard the story of the Thai guy squirting his load in the love canal, fathering a kid, only to jump ship once the kid is born, and never support or come into contact with the kid or mother ever again.  These stories are true and I know several Thai women who have victim to this.  On the other hand, why didn't the woman insist on the guy using a condom?  Why not just say no?  Even the "pull and pray" method would be a step in the right direction. 

I've met several Thai women who are just as much playboys as the men.  The fact that I am married has never stopped some Thai girls from making a hit on me.  I'd even go on to say that the fact you are married appears to excite them even more.  It's like doing something that is taboo, but at the same time raises the adrenaline and excitement level to a whole new dimension. 

Several girls will often tell you that they are single and "No have Thai boyfriend."  Nothing could be further from the truth in a lot of cases.  I asked a Thai girl once that used to work at one of those cafes as a singer (I knew she had a boyfriend).  I asked her why she was hitting on other men, including me.  Her reply was of no surprise to me.  She said, "Because I may have chance to upgrade."  That's the word she used, "Upgrade."  Like how you'd upgrade your phone or computer etc.  I explained to her that the grass isn't always greener on the other side.  I've met and have known several farangs in Korat who share no faithfulness to their Thai wife.  Some are even worse than Thai men, cheating on their wives, getting pissed every day, etc. 

Thai women seem to be under the impression that all farangs must make better partners than Thai men.  As most of you know, that isn't always the case.  I knew this one lad who after only being married for six months, was constantly cheating on his wife.  When I asked him why he'd do such a thing, his response was, "Well, after you marry you can still do the things you did when you were single, but you just have to me more careful about it." 

On a final note, what do you guys think about the Thai men vs Farang men in relationships with Thai women?  What about his constant bickering from Thai women that all Thai men are, "no goooood?"

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Re: Thai man no good?
« Reply #1 on: October 10, 2011, 12:56:58 PM »
 "Because I may have chance to upgrade."Cold n Callous. Yes a smile is nice from a girl,but in the back off your mind,you know why.BUT some farang guys actually think she likes me.The thai husbands i know,most are pretty hard working.But i think they are a bit sneaky about their other activities.
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Re: Thai man no good?
« Reply #2 on: November 07, 2011, 02:23:47 PM »
hi, what i want to say If there's one fact I keep hearing over and over it's this one!
My missus says it and so do the majority of bargirls I talk to.
Most of my students don't natuarally express an opinion but I have had the odd one or two make a similar comment.

Mainstream Thai families, we are led to believe, don't like the idea of a farang boyfriend/ husband so it's generally the poorer side of life that's looking for an easy way out of poverty.
The 'bad' girls from Thai families tend to go for the Japanese and I assume they still have some credibility amongst society

Do you think it's true?
Are Thai men no good?
Or is this another 'line' developed to appeal to western egos while they secure their futures with our hard earned?

Instead of generalising about Somchai, tuktuk drivers and needle dicks what do you think about this over-used opinion?
Is it a con?

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Re: Thai man no good?
« Reply #3 on: November 08, 2011, 02:06:38 AM »
Hi there Anselm.

I think there are good and bad men / women in any society.  It's just the Thai women seemed to express their opinions about it all the time.  The constant bickering and complaining about Thai men gets annoying at times.  Thailand did not become one of the most ethnically pure countries because the Thai women hated the Thai men.  Furthermore, guess who "she" will run back to when the farang's money is gone or when she's stolen enough of it? 

Is it a con?  Perhaps...but I think it's more of a way to build you up to think that they are perfect and their male counterparts are not.  Many times a Thai women will say that, "Thai man no good" but when in fact she HAS a Thai husband or boyfriend already.  Girls who say that do so because they don't want to lose their chance for a shot at you and your money.   Again if they were to tell you, "yeah I have a boyfriend" you'd probably lose interest in her.  This way it keeps all her options open, and that's how a lot of Thais are.  Don't commit to any single one thing, maximize as many options as possible and side with the winner. An example of this can be seen back in WWII when the ambassador of Thailand refused to deliver the declaration of war against the U.S.  In other words, the Thais wanted it both ways.  Many people don't even know that Thailand was actually allied with the Japanese during WWII.

Back to my point.  Bar girl or not, these women ARE looking for financial freedom...make no doubt about it.  There is nothing wrong with that, except for the means by which they use to try and achieve it. I'd rather hear a Thai women say, "You know, I don't find you attractive at all, but I know you have money and if I pretend to like you, you just might marry me and end my family's financial suffering. In the meantime, you can bone me as much as you want, as long as the money keeps flowing.  When it's gone or I've lost interest in you, it's over."

At least that way, you know where you stand.  Think about how much grief that would save those broken hearted foreigners if a women said that up front? The number of members of the Pattaya's diving club would decrease dramatically as well. 

Also, don't think that because she doesn't work in the bar that she's an angel.  Some of the ones that don't work in the bar are the worst. 

Finally, with regards to the Japanese....what woman here wouldn't love a guy who throws around 4,000 baht for short time, has a four inch pecker, and only lasts for four minutes?  Have you ever heard of the 4, 4 and 4 phenomena?