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Offline thaiga

when can’t expats go home
« on: July 04, 2016, 01:15:39 PM »
Another good read from inspirepattaya.com, headed Burning bridges – when can’t expats go home?
It's about expats who seem to have had enough of Thailand. For them paradise seems to have been lost. Can people just up sticks and go to the country of their birth as though nothing has happened in the intervening years.

From my own experience. i went back to the uk for a month with the wife in 2008, we arrived at heathrow on a wet and cold night in november about 7 o/clock in the evening. A friend came to the airport to meet me us, he was late due to the traffic, we finally got our bags into the car with the wife muttering she is cold n hungry, gin cow. No problem i suggested we stopped to eat at a pub i know and meet a few pals. My friend sniggered, at what at i thought, i found out when we reached the pub which was now boarded up.

In fact the whole month holiday was more or less the same, everything had changed, I had this picture in my mind that it would be just as i left it, many years ago. friends had moved on, some had died and so on. Not to mention the price of things.
That was 8 yrs ago, god only knows what it's like now.  The £ is now around 45.


Burning bridges – when can’t expats go home?

A lot of comments have been written on Thaivisa recently by expats who seem to have had enough of Thailand. For them paradise seems to have been lost.

They cite what they perceive as the exploding crime wave sweeping the nation making it unsafe to so much as breathe. They complain about the economy affecting only them causing undue hardship. They whine about lack of acceptance in Thailand moaning that the locals only care for their money.

They feel unloved and disrespected, somehow taken advantage of. They have been here for years and years and they want out to return to where the grass is always greener- the land that they dumped in the first place because Thailand and its people seemed so attractive and alluring.

But is it as simple as that – can people just up sticks and go to the country of their birth as though nothing has happened in the intervening years. Are they not deluding themselves about how those years have changed them, making it impossible to return? Will they be accepted in the society they have spurned?

Indeed have they not burnt their bridges stranding them in a country where they are bitter and disappointed? Marooned in a limbo of misery they are now homeless and bereft of hope marking time unhappily until the grim reaper calls.

So when is it that expats get to a point when there is no turning back – do some ...

full article inspirepattaya.com
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Online Taman Tun

Re: when can’t expats go home
« Reply #1 on: July 04, 2016, 04:37:54 PM »
This is an extract from Burmese Days - George Orwell:-

Since then he had not even applied for home leave. His father had died, then his mother,
and his sisters, disagreeable horse-faced women whom he had never liked, had married
and he had almost lost touch with them. He had no tie with Europe now, except the tie of
books. For he had realized that merely to go back to England was no remedy for
loneliness; he had grasped the special nature of the hell that is reserved for Anglo-
Indians. Ah, those poor prosing old wrecks in Bath and Cheltenham! Those tomb-like
boarding-houses with Anglo-Indians littered about in all stages of decomposition, all
talking and talking about what happened in Boggleywalah in ‘88! Poor devils, they know
what it means to have left one’s heart in an alien and hated country.
We are masters of the unsaid words, but slaves of those we let slip out. Churchill
 

Offline thaiga

Re: when can’t expats go home
« Reply #2 on: July 04, 2016, 05:03:00 PM »
Oh, why did they launch us to sea with our faces ever facing to the shore?

(Also Orwell, Burmese Days)
Anyone who goes to a psychiatrist should have his head examined.
 

Offline Johnnie F.

Re: when can’t expats go home
« Reply #3 on: July 04, 2016, 06:37:37 PM »
“You're an expatriate. You've lost touch with the soil. You get precious. Fake European standards have ruined you. You drink yourself to death. You become obsessed with sex. You spend all your time talking, not working. You are an expatriate, see? You hang around cafes.”

(Hemingway, The Sun Also Rises)

Well, maybe not spend all your time talking, as times have changed and one types more into forums then real face-to-face conversations..., but he's definitely right about the (real Thai) standards having ruined us. Who can go back living like this still in Europe? We would have to step down and live like normal people again, not playing the role of an expat anymore, trying to reintegrate into a world that has changed in the meantime. All of a sudden you were (back) in a world where you needed to take a total new orientation, having lost your expat privileges.

I would just move on to another country, maybe my second choice Mexico.
Fun is the one thing that money can't buy
 

Offline thaiga

Re: when can’t expats go home
« Reply #4 on: July 06, 2016, 01:59:20 PM »

I would just move on to another country, maybe my second choice Mexico.
Good luck, let us know how you get on ;)  "Down Mexico Way"

"South of the Border" (Gene Autry, 1939)


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