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Hitting the Jackpot – Meeting a Thai Woman with Money
« on: June 16, 2015, 04:17:21 PM »
I thought this was an interesting article from stayinginthailand.com, Here are the main points there is more in the link below. Bearing in mind this is only one man's view,  so hit the keyboard if don't agree with him. And give us your view.

Hitting the Jackpot – Meeting a Thai Woman with Money

I’m not a regular on ThaiVisa, but I’ve been to the site enough to have seen dozens of men talk about their rich, Chinese-Thai wives.  It happens so often that it’s actually a long running joke amongst board regulars.  There are indeed plenty of people out there who either : A) want to brag about their good fortune in finding a Thai woman whose family has money, OR B), want to pretend that their former whore of a wife is actually a member of the Bangkok HISO.  In case you were wondering, a very high percentage fit into group B.  I won’t be discussing why people lie about these things; that is fairly obvious.  But not everyone is lying about it.  It’s not impossible, but would it even be worth it?  And what about girls from middle class families?  We’ll jump into all of that!

I should start by saying that there is NOTHING wrong with settling down with a girl from a poor family.  As long as she wasn’t a prostitute, and her family doesn’t want to shake you down, it’s perfectly fine.  There are cons (they might not have the best manners), but there are pros (they’re appreciative).  You’ll find good ones and you’ll find bad ones, just like in any other economic class.  I’ll write about meeting women with money in this article, but I’m not saying that is the only route, or even the best route to go.

Here is my best guess on the socioeconomic status of Thai women married to Western foreigners:

Out of every 100 Thai women married to foreigners,

50% come from families who have absolutely nothing

46% come from families who have next to nothing

3% come from middle class families

0.9% come from upper middle class families

0.1 come from wealthy families

I think most guys who’ve spent real time here would agree with that.  Thailand’s middle class is significantly smaller than the middle class of Western countries, which does impact the pool to begin with.  But even though that is true, it’s still clear that middle class and wealthy Thai’s are much more reluctant to marry foreigners’ than the poor.  Why is this?

5 reasons why middle class and wealthy Thai girls don’t marry foreigners

1) They have a much better pool of Thai men to pair off with.  Thai women have many more things in common with Thai men than with us.  If they can meet a good Thai man who can take good care of them, they don’t NEED us.  Thai’s with money tend to pair up with other Thai’s with money; foreigners don’t fill any voids here.  Many of the bad traits we hear about Thai men don’t apply to Thai men with money as much.  They’re far less likely to abandon their families and they’re more likely to keep their shit together.

2) They don’t meet many foreign men.   Poor Thai women are more likely to put themselves out there on mixed dating sites, and they exclusively own the tourist city prostitute category.  Girls who go to a university and then jump into the job scene won’t meet many Westerners.  They’re also more reserved, and would often be too shy to approach a foreigner they are attracted to.

3) It’s looked down on.  While poor villagers celebrate when one of their own hits the farang lottery, the middle class and wealthy Thai’s judge the action harshly.  To them it’s a sign that you couldn’t meet a good Thai man.

4) They’re more likely to stay married to their Thai husband/father of their children.  Thai women marry young; so foreigners are often getting into relationships with women who have either had a child with a Thai man or were married to one in the past.  Marriages in the poorer classes disintegrate at a higher rate.  I’d say that at least half of Thai women married to foreigners were either married prior or had a child prior.

5) They’re more likely to stay age-appropriate.  Most foreigners visiting Thailand with the intentions of meeting a special Thai girl, are not young.   Girls from poor backgrounds are more open minded and far less picky about things.  They often prefer older men.  This is another need vs. want issue – and Thai girls with money don’t want a guy who is 20 years older than them, and they certainly don’t need one.

So if this is a goal of yours, the deck is kind of stacked against you.  However, most Western guys take additional steps to make sure they’ll never meet a girl from a middle class or better background.  They almost always put themselves in a position to meet only poor girls.  When they’re prowling dating sites or bars, there is only one class of girl they’re likely to meet.   

full article: stayinginthailand
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Re: Hitting the Jackpot – Meeting a Thai Woman with Money
« Reply #1 on: June 16, 2015, 06:31:52 PM »
Interesting article.  However, he hasn't a clue what's going on.  The stats he posts come from where?  Like he said, "My best guess."  Where did he get these figures from?  Did he interview 100 Thai women married to foreigners?

Five reasons why middle class and wealthy Thais don't marry foreigners???   Is this guy serious??? 

" Many of the bad traits we hear about Thai men don’t apply to Thai men with money as much."

Horse shti!!  My sister in law is married to a super rich Thai-Chinese guy, connected up the ying yang, and loaded with more money than you can imagine.  Without going into detail, I can say that she is ready to leave his sorry-a.ss.  The constant complaining and regrets why she even married him never stop.

" It’s looked down on"

Yes it is and do you know why??? It's because so many foreigners MARRY BAR GIRLS, THEREFORE IT IS LOOKED DOWN ON BY THE THAIS.  HELLO???  Anyone home????  It's funny whenever my wife and I are out shopping at The Mall or some public place....So many times my wife and I are approached by other Thais and the Thais are perplexed at the fact that I married a highly educated middle class white skin Thai-Chinese girl.  "Oh I thought Farang like lady skin black work Pattaya."

Uhhh.... No...

Good, Rich, and educated Thai women ARE out there, but you aren't going to find them on Soi 3 at the beer bar in Pattaya.  This guy has obviously been looking for his dream girl in the wrong places and / or he couldn't cut it with a good Thai girl and his as.s got dumped.


About the Author of that Article.


"Mike is from the U.S. and has lived in Pattaya for 5 years. He left a job at a web design firm to become a traveling freelance writer/web designer. Mike has more than a decade of experience as a professional writer and as a web designer. He was married and divorced before leaving the U.S., and has vowed never to marry again. He loves Pattaya, Thailand, business, and women. Mike isn’t shy about sharing his experiences and his knowledge with anyone and everyone. He has a unique point of view that can easily be appreciated and he puts great effort into writing well thought out, helpful, and factual articles and posts. "




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Re: Hitting the Jackpot – Meeting a Thai Woman with Money
« Reply #2 on: June 17, 2015, 09:55:12 AM »
Western societies are traditionally more male-dominated, also called Patriarchate (in the anthropological and ethnological sense) While the typical South East Asian societies are more female-dominated, also called Matriarchate. Daughters of the wealthy often do get an education more fitting to that traditional role. As long as their education standard and wealth does not highly overcome these traditional role teachings both will naturally date and mate along those traditional lines. It's not all about money, it's more about tradition. Which Westerner is freely surrendering to "his role" in a Matriarchate, having been told all his life, that his role is male domination? For teaching a wife to give up a good part of her traditional role as 'matriarch' and accommodate herself at least to some degree with a 'patriarch' the husband's personal wealth is a "good argument"; it helps redistributing roles. Vice versa as well! :)

How many men of Western descent are out there, willing to give up their role or part thereof?
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Re: Hitting the Jackpot – Meeting a Thai Woman with Money
« Reply #3 on: June 17, 2015, 01:17:45 PM »
that's his guess which means nothing,like thaiga said this is only one man's view. oh sorry i mean only one man's guess.

i think your right bf  he's had his a.ss dumped and now he's screaming.

jf, It's not all about money, it's more about tradition. there's some truth in that

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Re: Is The Average Thailand Expat A Fruitcake
« Reply #4 on: June 19, 2015, 01:29:54 PM »
Thanks for your interesting replies, nice one B/F - he hasn't a clue what's going on, thought takitor would of been baited on that one, never mind here,s another odd post from afarangabroad.com. The heading of his article is.

Is The Average Thailand Expat A Fruitcake?

Are expats who move to Asia of lower quality?

He's not actually happy here as he states. If I had the money, I would not be living in Thailand. I would be somewhere like Madrid, New York, Sydney, Berlin, Rio De Janeiro or Tokyo. Duh! can you believe this guy.

He goes on to say - Why did I pick Thailand? Because I don’t have the means to live in the cites above, and Thailand is by far the best country in the world (in my limited opinion) to live in terms of value for money and western amenities on offer. I can fly to several countries for less than $100 and I have all the options in Bangkok as I do in England.

Just head to Chiang Mai and you will see a ton of digital nomads who live off $500 per month or less.

Maybe that’s it? The cheapness of Thailand attracts ‘lower quality expats’?

What are your thoughts on the ‘average’ Thailand expat, am I right? Am I wrong? Am I limited in my thoughts because I don’t have a wider circle of friends? Are the French the problem? They probably are, but I’m sure there’s more too it than just them.

For me personally, if a friend was moving to Thailand I would tell them to be careful about who they make friends with. The average Thailand expat is not what you’d expect. What do you think? Leave a comment.

MORE HERE: afarangabroad  Well he does say Leave a comment. ⇩⇩⇩   
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Re: Hitting the Jackpot – Meeting a Thai Woman with Money
« Reply #5 on: June 19, 2015, 03:44:35 PM »
very plain to see who the fruitcake is  :)

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Re: Hitting the Jackpot – Meeting a Thai Woman with Money
« Reply #6 on: June 20, 2015, 03:20:18 PM »
We all know why every one is here. ;D ;D ;D




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Re: Hitting the Jackpot – Meeting a Thai Woman with Money
« Reply #7 on: June 21, 2015, 01:55:58 PM »
We all know why every one is here 

Let's make a list of reasons why we could be here, who knows we might even get some interesting replies, here's some reasons below, feel free to add

1) the lovely weather

2) the lovely food

3) the lovely temples

4) the lovely.......

so guys what is it
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Re: Hitting the Jackpot – Meeting a Thai Woman with Money
« Reply #8 on: June 21, 2015, 06:26:14 PM »
apart from the obvious,a big attraction could be the cost of living.

4.the cost of living

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Re: Hitting the Jackpot – Meeting a Thai Woman with Money
« Reply #9 on: June 21, 2015, 06:31:50 PM »
apart from the obvious,a big attraction could be the cost of living.

4.the cost of living

Agree with you 100%.  Buying a house here paid in full wouldn't even be close to putting a down-payment for a house in the states.  :-[

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Re: Hitting the Jackpot – Meeting a Thai Woman with Money
« Reply #10 on: June 21, 2015, 06:33:42 PM »
Sowhat.

My wife is the one who hit the jackpot.  :cheers

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Re: Hitting the Jackpot – Meeting a Thai Woman with Money
« Reply #11 on: June 21, 2015, 08:26:07 PM »

5. Not being regarded as old,  (after all we are all young , hansum men)

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Re: Hitting the Jackpot – Meeting a Thai Woman with Money
« Reply #12 on: June 22, 2015, 12:38:49 PM »
(after all we are all young , hansum men)
I'll go along with that jivvy - good answer  :)

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Re: Hitting the Jackpot – Meeting a Thai Woman with Money
« Reply #13 on: June 23, 2015, 04:57:31 PM »
Here's a follow up from answer no.4.

 The big attraction to Thailand could be the cost of living.

I found an article (below) from noodlebudget. On how you can stay here for very little money.
I'll leave you guys to work out the flaws in this article.


The 500 Dollar Budget in Thailand

Many people that come to Thailand come in thinking, I can do this cheap because everyone says so and then proceed to blow every dime in a week. Stop it is very easy to live here for 500 dollars a month or I have done it on 300 before just to see if it can be done, it can. The trick to all this is saving money and self-control. This will be a guide and a kind of step by step of living in Thailand on a budget.

Budget :

1. Get a budget app
2. Convert all your money at the first of the month and get a local account at the bank. saves fees.
3. Get a Condo or house away from the city centers
4. Shop at the local farmers markets
5. Wash your own clothes, laundry mat all over
6. Get a bike, petrol is cheap here

I will give a breakdown of my budget for last month.

Rent – 3,500 Baht
Food – 3,000 Baht per person, 2 people
Electric / water – 2,800 Baht
Entertainment – 2,000 Baht
Visa Fee – 1,900 Baht
Cell phone /Internet – 500 Baht
Wash Clothes – 200 Baht

Total: 16,900 Baht or 502 USD

As you can see it is very possible to enjoy Thailand for months or even years on a fixed budget. Keep in mind, if you have health issues, your budget will increase, don’t hit the bar every night.
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