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Offline thaiga

Does being an expat keep you younger in spirit and ambition?
« on: September 23, 2018, 01:54:46 PM »
Does being an expat keep you younger in spirit and ambition?



I was watching a UK TV show recently that was about changing peoples houses and lifestyles. One guy, who was 42 years old which is my age, said he shocked himself that he was able to change his house design so much “you know, given the stage of life I am at“. It stopped me in my tracks, what does he mean ‘at his stage of life‘?

Is life really all mapped out at 42 years old?

I then started to think about all my peers back in the UK and even searched a few on Facebook for research purposes. How were they living their lives and was ’42’ deemed an age where your life is now mapped out for good? Sadly, in 95% of cases it looked just so. Everyone content with their lot in life and now seemingly lost of any real ambition. Happy to go to work Monday to Friday, enjoy a beer at the weekend and put the kids through schooling. That kind of thing.

I was also back in the UK last year and I stayed with my younger brother at his house in Whitstable. I asked him about his plans for the future. He is 38 years old. He said he had no plans and was happy with his home and job, and would look forward to a couple of holidays each year. Again, I was shocked. There is so much magic and opportunity to experience different things in this world that to stay in a relative bubble like this confuses me. Why not strive to live multiple chapters rather than one fairly predictable one that I see time and time again by my peers back home?

Maybe I am wrong, but I could only draw conclusion that being so institutionalized by societies cultural expectations in the UK – or for that matter any other Western worlds – sucks the ambition out of individuals as they get older. They get so burdened with paying off the mortgage, maybe clearing a credit card debt, buying a new car and then putting their children through schooling that they lose sight of the bigger picture available to them.

On reflection, I feel relieved I escaped my domestic country now

I breathe a big sigh of relief that I escaped this at a relatively early age – 29 years old – as I could have conceded defeat on a really great life and missed out on doing so much.

Going back to this 42 year old on TV saying ‘at his stage of life‘ he was surprised he could decorate his home so differently, here I am in Thailand still dreaming and striving for new experiences and wealth. I have still not given up on owning a football club one day either!

I am still passionate about trying and investing in new business ventures. It is fun, stimulating and comes with a big prize if I get it right. As a fellow entrepreneur quoted “It doesn’t matter how many times you fail, you only have to get it right once”. I get up inspired and motivated each day. My day to day job is varied, progressive, deeply rewarding and interesting – and as a result life is never dull.

I live in a large condo in a tropical country, yet am about to relocate to another area of Thailand into a luxury pool villa – such is my vigour for change. Life can offer and be so rewarding because I never let life stand still or take control of me. I think being an expat helps galvanize and encourage this free spirit.

So, why for my peers back in the UK does their life become so predictable and – in my eyes at least – dull?

I am grateful for escaping my domestic country because as an expat you can act more freely and act an individual. There is no cultural expectation being an expat, you are allowed to develop and be your own person.

Maybe I have got it wrong, but what other feasible rationale can there be? Being an expat helps keep you younger in spirit and ambitious – and keeps you away from the clasps of Western societies shackles.

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Offline Johnnie F.

Re: Does being an expat keep you younger in spirit and ambition?
« Reply #1 on: September 23, 2018, 04:03:55 PM »
Does being an expat keep you younger in spirit and ambition?

At first it might be the other way round: people are daring to leave their home soil, because they're still young in spirit and ambition. Question is rather, do people now burn all bridges behind them and become pure expats, just substitute one place with another, because they're still young in spirit and ambition, or have they given up already like those who grew up in the village they were born and where they've lived  all their lives and now watch the grass grow?

When I left Germany for another country to live, I always kept the option of returning without problems. I didn't sell my condo, but just rented it out, even if that meant the trouble of watching over things from afar. Now I could easily change Thailand for another place, I have more than one option: I don't have to start from scratch anywhere else I go. That enables me to arrange my life a little riskier, still have spirit and ambitions. When you got no other options left, you don't need ambitions, either! You got to make the best of what you already have; spirit and ambitions of alternatives are out of place now.
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Offline thaiga

Re: Does being an expat keep you younger in spirit and ambition?
« Reply #2 on: September 23, 2018, 08:48:26 PM »
What's expat life really like after the initial sparkle starts to fade away, How did I make a life for myself here in Thailand, what made the final decision. i think most of us that took the plunge to pack eveything up, your whole life in just a couple of suitcases, we wanted something more from our lives than friday night down the pub with your mates and two weeks paid holiday a year. leaving your family and starting a new life, aint that easy, but the the adventure of it all, the difference in lifestyle, a whole new world was just about to start.

like everyone you will have ups n downs, the sparkle might fade at times, but then tomorrow is a different day. i think attitude counts and problems you have to look at from the other persons view as well as your own. not understanding the language when you first arrive in Thailand is like being a child you need someone to explain everything to you, but thats all part n parcel of the game. coming to a country where you don't speak the language, lonely, no friends, not a single soul in the world when you walk off the plane, just your partner a welcome site smiling to greet you at the airport. because you know nothing or nobody here, you have to confide in her, which can be taken as an advantage with someone who is not 100% true. Becoming part of another culture is quite an unique experience.

OK Does being an expat keep you younger, silly question really
Starting over again even some at the age of 70 you feel young as you are still learning, something new, at the same time your also discovering more of yourself. what you are giving up, in return you are gaining in your life experience and adventure. as time goes by what your missing you will soon forget. the worst thing is comparing where you come from to where you are now, moaning i think its called.
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Re: Does being an expat keep you younger in spirit and ambition?
« Reply #3 on: September 24, 2018, 12:59:03 PM »
Do older expats (been here too long brigade) have a dislike to the young ones, on reading around the forums, what with the strict new visa rules, i get the impression they do, with the attitude, these hangers on making us all look like cheap charlies. lots of posts on the t/v forum over the past, sounding like the expats on tourist visa runs or education visas should not be here, do they really want them out, or have these moaners been here too long. there are so many expats full of hate, showing their unhappiness in life, they are only hurting themselves, or are they jealous of the attention others get from the oppo sex  ;D
 

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Re: Does being an expat keep you younger in spirit and ambition?
« Reply #4 on: September 24, 2018, 02:11:05 PM »
When I discovered those internet forums for expats I encountered just the opposite, I think. The blokes who'd been here for ages only occasionally opened up to give some comment, while the newcomers who'd grown up with computers and internet pretended to own all wisdom, attacking any experience-based advice as show-off. So hardly any real experience could be heard. And it is still the same! Just the newcomers aren't newcomers anymore, and the wisdom they allege still isn't experience: it's moaning about LOS and the culture they still don't comprehend for their own fault of having missed the plane back home.
 

Offline thaiga

Re: Does being an expat keep you younger in spirit and ambition?
« Reply #5 on: September 24, 2018, 05:08:45 PM »
the individual himself might think he is younger, but what do the people round him think :-[

Do thai ladies like younger men
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Offline Johnnie F.

Re: Does being an expat keep you younger in spirit and ambition?
« Reply #6 on: September 24, 2018, 05:27:41 PM »
Do thai ladies like younger men

Do you mean younger than they themselves? I would say, not only thai ladies like younger guys, usually middle-aged western women, too, like younger guys, who need to "help out" to fulfill their desires, when the hubby is interested "more in his work" than her. But thai ladies are rarely seen with a younger western guy, because the competition by the younger thai women is big. The singer Sunaree with her french husband is an exception, because she is not an average thai woman, but an artist and a celebrity.
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Offline thaiga

Re: Does being an expat keep you younger in spirit and ambition?
« Reply #7 on: September 24, 2018, 05:38:13 PM »
Rrrr i see if your an artist or a celebrity its ok to have a younger other half
there are plenty of piff  :drink artists here, so thats how they get away with it  :lol
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Re: Does being an expat keep you younger in spirit and ambition?
« Reply #8 on: September 24, 2018, 06:07:45 PM »
That video has just knocked on about every expats ego thanks. at the moment i'm hanging pics of myself on the bedroom wall. hope i dont have nightmares :rclxs0
 

Offline thaiga

Re: Does being an expat keep you younger in spirit and ambition?
« Reply #9 on: September 25, 2018, 03:02:26 PM »
That video has just knocked on about every expats ego thanks. at the moment i'm hanging pics of myself on the bedroom wall. hope i dont have nightmares :rclxs0
All expats have nightmares one way or another, lack of research and planning, some people get knocked off their feet once in a while while chasing the so called expat dream. try to ignore the little things or little people that try to wear you down along the way, like smart remarks on a forum, they are loosers, trying to look flash in front of their buddies, they are living the same life as back home, they missed the finding of a dream, their attitude towards others shows their unhappiness. relocating to a new country is bigger than you think, you must prepare yourself for the worst. i do feel for the expats who have been through hell and had to return home, then being worse off than before they left. The big move doesn't really change the daily needs as in an income, although you can eat and live cheaper here, unless you want to carry on eating the western food,

The new relaxed what you hoped for stress free life, is there, if you let it be, living here as to on holiday is so different, its now the real thing, your cultural background, personality, need to change to escape the ones that you left behind. some guys try to live the same as back home, thats impossible, when changing countries your life has to change as well. not easy for some that have their pension frozen, where you could find it difficult making ends meet, seems everything is against some expats, the exchange rate, the brexit, and your own government, plus the price of things here are gradually creeping up.

hey the girls are still gorgeous though  ;)
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Offline thaiga

Re: Does being an expat keep you younger in spirit and ambition?
« Reply #10 on: September 26, 2018, 11:54:38 AM »
Does being an expat make you feel younger, we all know the answer to that, not forgetting we are all  "hansum man"  being happy keeps you young        now  ;D smile ;D

Although many might struggle with their new way of life, their new location, mixing with the locals, or even the problems some suffer living out in the sticks, away from what they call civilization, so their wife is near to her family and the people she knows, a good wife will always remember what you have sacrificed for her, even more if you take care of her children. then the day will come for her to take care of you. The problem with some older expats is changing their ways, the older you get the harder it gets  :o changing their ways i meant. so for some it can be a lonely and frustrating at times, so you have to mix in and change your fuddy duddy old ways, you can still find your dream if you try, no matter what age you are.

Having a good wife is so important, if you cant trust your wife who can you trust, being an expat, you are less likely to have friends and relatives on the spot to help you. you need her more than you think, having a bad marriage is difficult enough in your own country, let alone in another. compromise might save all. 
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